Aren’t promotions supposed to be a joyous occasion? It’s not that simple for women, as career glow-ups are often tied to the downfall of their heterosexual relationships. Why? Because men are letting their fragile egos get in the way of a woman’s success, especially when she’s making more money than him. Staff writer Jennifer explains the phenomenon and reflects on her personal experience downplaying big wins, all to protect a man's feelings. |
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It seems like everyone watched Netflix’s Fair Play in the last few weeks and it’s got people reflecting on their experiences—particularly women feeling resented by their partners when their careers take off.
Now, this isn’t an unfamiliar trope. Take Carrie Bradshaw and Jack Berger's relationship in Sex and The City as a prime example. Remember when Berger broke up with Carrie via sticky note because he couldn’t handle the success of her book? And how he sabotaged and undermined the relationship all the way to the bitter end?
While I wish I could say this trope only exists on-screen, The Cut wrote about men sabotaging their relationships IRL post-promotion. As did The Guardian, with both articles highlighting real-life stories about how some men would grow resentment for their female partner's success, develop unhealthy coping mechanisms and destroy their relationships as a form of retaliation. “The lingering gender norm that men must be the breadwinner puts added stress upon an already challenging upheaval,” writes Magdalene J. Taylor.
Heck, it’s even happened to me! Earlier this year, I celebrated a career milestone and modeled in my first international campaign. My partner at the time dragged his feet behind me as I excitedly saw the billboard go up and I remember being confused. In hindsight, I realized I was unable to celebrate a momentous career win because I had to account for how the win would make him feel. It’s an impossible balance. Women are encouraged to work and be successful—but not more successful than their male partners because *gasp* it might bruise their ego. In addition, we also need to bear the emotional burden of resentment. “They can either struggle with the man’s struggle, or they lose themselves trying to help their partners.” Sue Marriot, a therapist, shares in The Guardian. While the emotional gymnastics of tending to fragile masculinity on top of doing my actual work is definitely above my pay grade. I’m still a hopeless romantic and I want to be in a relationship. But I’m also driven and career-oriented. If that intimidates men, will I always be forced to choose between the two? |
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